self-actualization
August 16, 2010
Self-actualization is a term that gained currency in our culture
about half a century ago. At first blush the concept appears
benign enough: it appears to do no more than to reflect our
innate drive to achieve our full potential, to bring to fruition
our unique capacity for human flourishing, Hence the dictionary
definition: the realization or fulfillment of one’s talents
and potentialities, esp. considered as a drive or need in
everyone. (The New Oxford American Dictionary)
The self-actualizing tendency would seem to be ideally
suited for life in societies structured around competition.
Here, though, a different picture begins to emerge. Is the
so-called self-actualizer pursuing a path of inborn
possibilities, or is s/he unwittingly bending to cultural
imperatives that lead to loneliness and isolation? The
“promise” of self-actualization is slippery indeed, if in fact
the search for one’s direction in life culminates in the
exclusion of other people and the refusal of the mystery as it
manifests itself in all dimensions and spheres of one’s
existence. Adrian van Kaam portrays self-actualizers as those
who believe “they should follow their own inclinations and give
form to their lives in absolute transcendent freedom . . . free
from any implicit or explicit form tradition.” (Formative
Spirituality, Volume I, p. 53) Personal freedom is
paramount for the self-actualizer. Van Kaam continues:
. . . anything which strikes people as a meaningful directive
for their own life is, in and by itself, automatically
meaningful for their self-actualization. The formation
direction for their life receives its validity exclusively from
their own subjective experience. This autonomous
self-experience transcends all vital, functional, social,
cultural, and religious directives, as well as all form
traditions. (Ibid.)
The spiritual traditions of humanity say
something different: We cannot do it by ourselves! Human
flourishing is not an individual project but the flowering
within a person of the transcendent directives offered in
common to adherents yet lived out faithfully and in
community by the individual adherent. Over and over again
in the literature of spirituality we read about the need for
grace to assist us in our aspiration to become who we most
deeply are. Alone—on our own—we are insufficient, and
incomplete. By nature we are made to require the integrity and
wholeness that are available to us only through prayer and
repentance and spiritual communion. Thomas a Kempis declared
his need for God: “Lord, I have great need of your grace,” and
prayed accordingly in The Imitation of Christ:
O Lord, by seeking myself
I lost you
and myself as well.
Now in seeking you again,
I have found both myself
and you.
Similarly, Teresa of Avila’s The Interior Castle can be
read as a progressive account of relinquishing one’s autonomy at
every stage of spiritual development in favor of living more and
more in obedience to what God is prepared to give the soul now
for its most beneficial nourishment and for its ultimate union
with God. Although one does not give up working and doing one’s
part to cooperate with grace, it is clear that for Teresa the
greater work lies in submitting one’s will to God’s will so that
the personal will gradually becomes a “love-will,” a greater
expression of God’s life in the soul.
Contemporary expressions of need
and personal insufficiency can also be found. In particular,
“Reflection,” a poem by Franz Wright, resonates with images of
sinfulness in Teresa of Avila’s dwelling places of The
Interior Castle: (Quoted in full)
I wear this small fish hook
of crucifix
Look
how it helps
keeps the head weighted
down
down with same, with
the glory
and shame
Right here
it hangs,
near
the heart’s
hidden room
where
a table stand
set for me
not
a dark bar
(no more
that pointless horror)
Table
for two: one
invisible host
and the guest
who is anyone
hungering
thirsting and
hungering
and meeting himself
for the first
time, the maggot
waiting
in the mirror
there at
the bottom
of the
drained
chalice ―
In one of her very short, short stories, “Examples of Remember,”
Lydia Davis offers: “Remember that thou art but dust.”
If the Judeo-Christian tradition puts autonomous self
formation in question, Eastern spiritual traditions question the
very notion of a substantial “self.” In short, there is no
self to actualize. According to Kosho Uchiyama, to take
but one example:
Actually there is no I existing as some
substantial thing; there is only the ceaseless flow. This is true
not only of me, it is true of all things. In Buddhism, this truth
is the first undeniable reality, that all things are flowing and
changing,… and that all things are insubstantial…. (Furthermore)
our attachment to our self as though it were a substantial being is
a source of our greed, anger, suffering, and strife. It is crucial
that we reflect thoroughly on the fact that our self does not have a
substantial existence; rather, it has an interdependent existence.
(Opening the Hand of Thought, pp. 99-100)
In Volume four of his series Formative Spirituality,
Adrian van Kaam writes, “Spiritual formation is thus understood
as a universal graced possibility of human life.” If we
understand the unfolding of our human potential to be “an
intimate participation in an all-pervasive mystery of formation
and transformation” . . . it follows that “formation by the
mystery is not a facet of self-actualization or human
development. Rather it is a way of intimacy with a mystery that
forms us.” (p. 114-115)
Our current notions of
progress are prone to derail authentic spiritual advancement, which
has much more to do with the inner life than with outer
circumstances relating to profit and gain. We would do well to
remember that the “pilgrim’s progress” was about the soul’s
enrichment in virtue, i.e. spiritual growth, not in the illusion of
self-betterment, material enhancement, and worldly success.